How to establish a good parent-child relationship with children is a lesson that parents must learn. Some parents will provide their children with rich material conditions in exchange for their children's love and trust. In fact, a good parent-child relationship cannot be achieved by spending money, it is naturally shaped in the details of daily life!
The following lists five key details that can enhance parent-child relationship in daily life. Parents and friends should pay attention!
A happy wake up moodIn the early morning, will you rush to pick up the sleeping child because you are in a hurry? Would you get into a war with your child because he didn't wear a certain item of clothing? The plan of the day lies in the morning. Is the morning that belongs to you nervous or joyful?
In fact, every happy morning can not only make children have a good mood all day, but also become the glue between parents and children. We can try to do the following: In the process from opening the eyes to waking up, give the child 15 minutes to create a suitable environment for the child to wake up naturally.
A homecoming greeting and hugDue to the pressure of work, trivial matters of life, etc., we sometimes feel irritable. When we come home and see that the child is disobedient, we will uncontrollably make a series of complaints and criticisms to him, "Look at you, again Get your clothes so dirty!" "Have you been naughty in kindergarten today?"
According to psychologists' research, everyone can perceive whether they are welcome or not through a series of reactions from their family members when they come back from the outside and just step into the room, which will have a subtle impact on subsequent moods. So, you might as well make an appointment with your child and your family to give everyone a warm welcome, a greeting, a hug, a pair of slippers or a cup of hot tea to everyone who comes home from outside. Such an agreement can add a lot to the parent-child relationship.
Sweet and beautiful bedtimeMaybe you're having a difficult child's trouble falling asleep. In many families, bedtime has become a chaotic time, with children having a great time and reluctance to fall asleep, while parents want their children to go to bed as soon as possible. The end result often becomes a child whose parents are urging the children who are reluctant to fall asleep over and over again, turning the originally beautiful bedtime time into a battlefield of "war raging". Studies have shown that sleeping with negative emotions for a long time can lead to sleep problems in children and even affect physical and mental health.
If you can make falling asleep the most anticipated special time of the day, your child will look forward to bedtime. How can this be done?
Reading, of course, is a good way. Lean on the head of the bed with your child, and enjoy the warmth of the story while speaking. After reading, you can also chat with your child, exchange the content of the story, and listen carefully to every word and sentence of the child. In this way, the child will gradually learn to share his worries, hopes and wishes with his parents, the child's anxiety will be relieved, and reading and listening will relax his mind and body, and he will fall asleep peacefully.
Regular parent-child activitiesWe might as well set a date with our kids to be as "perfect" parents as possible. How to arrange a date?
- Pick an activity: Make a list of things your child likes to do together as much as possible. Try to do these activities in 30 to 40 minutes without having to spend too much money. For example: go for a walk in the park, ride a bike together, fly a kite, puzzle, play chess, play computer games, make cakes, etc.
- Arrange the time of each activity in advance (there should be more than 1 time per week), and mark it clearly on the calendar. Parents should take appointments with their children seriously, and they should not miss appointments casually. If there is an emergency, explain to your child and reschedule.
- The most important point to remember is that we hold parent-child activities to enhance the parent-child relationship. Don't let your emotions indulge yourself because of trivial matters, which will only be counterproductive. During the activity, we might as well ask ourselves to be a "perfect parent for half an hour", affirm and praise the child more, keep the body close, hug the child, pat the child's shoulder, touch the child's head, hold the child's hand, Kiss the child's face.
Relationship Reconstruction After Parent-Child ConflictDad was upset about work, but the naughty child accidentally ruined the drawings he just drew. Dad couldn't control his anger for a while, and got angry in front of the child and spanked his little ass. The child kept this matter in mind, and the relationship became estranged. How to do it?
A few days later, Dad came up with a solution. Say, "Let's play the game 'Go to Space.'" The child can't resist the "temptation" of such a fun game. So Dad put helmets on both of them and got ready to launch, lift off. Dad said: "Now we are in the high space, and we see a child below accidentally destroying Dad's drawings. Dad is very angry and beat him. How does he feel..."
Through questions and answers, Dad recreated what happened that day in the game, frankly told the child his own reflection, and encouraged the child to express his feelings. During the process, Dad always expressed understanding, support and love without reservation. After this game, the father-son relationship has returned to its former closeness.
This is the "extraction method" often used in psychology, which is very helpful for rebuilding damaged relationships. Let parents and children put aside all unpleasant memories or emotions during this time, do not say offensive words, do not turn to old accounts, but can honestly express their inner emotional needs and how they feel when they are together , happy things we did together.
Whether the parent-child relationship is close and harmonious affects the direction of children's education to a certain extent. Parents' words and deeds will have a subtle influence on children, so that children learn to treat others fairly and have a sense of responsibility. In the future, children will become popular people when they enter the society.